Have you heard the story of Buridan’s Donkey? . . . If not, the story is actually pretty ridiculous, but so very, very true to human nature. See if you relate to this:
A donkey is placed right in the middle of two stacks of hay. He’s hungry, very hungry, but he doesn’t know which one to choose, so he stays where he is, and dies.
Ridiculous, right?? If it were truly a life or death decision, surely, he would pick one and eat?!
How many times have you been stuck in “paralysis by analysis”? Waiting for the choice to become crystal clear BEFORE you make a decision . . . That decision could be in staying in a dying marriage or doing something about it. That decision could be making a career change because you absolutely hate your job, but you are waiting for the “right one” to come along. That decision could be waiting to make a purchase (like my video course!) because you aren’t really sure it will give you the benefit you are looking for. Read More
This past weekend I heard the story of a husband who came home from a vacation with his wife in Cancun. As soon as he walked in the door, he made a grand declaration. “I want a divorce!” When the wife asked why, he said, “Because you were no fun!!” He went upstairs, re-packed his bags, and left.
Just yesterday, I was shopping with my oldest daughter in Kroger. On the endcap, there were boxes of Frankenberry, Booberry, and Count Chocula. I was all excited about it – remembering how I grew up on that cereal and how my brother’s favorite was Booberry while mine was Frankenberry. I couldn’t resist, and I put a box of the bright pink cereal in my basket.
As I oohed and aaahed, a gentleman who was maybe 27 years old with a wedding ring on his left hand, walked by and said, “Really? You are that excited about a cereal??” At first I thought he was kidding – after all, this box held SO many wonderful childhood memories for me. But then my daughter stopped me and said, “Mom, he’s making fun of you. . .” Read More
This is without a doubt the #1 question I receive from women all around the world. Should I stay or should I go? When is enough enough?
Women, just like YOU, are searching for answers to the question: What should I do?? If I do this, this is what I see in my future. If I do something else, then this is what I see in my future . . . and neither seems like a very good scenario. More unanswered question, chaos, fear, raw emotions, and there is no crystal ball to know anything for sure.
In my first video course, I want to empower you to make that decision for yourself. I’m giving you everything I’ve got:
- How to answer that question for yourself!
- How to have a fresh new attitude so you are ready to face the challenges ahead!
- How to surround yourself with those that love and support you – even if your friends are tired of hearing your story!
- How to create your life that you are passionate about and absolutely adore!
- How to celebrate all that you are and all that is just waiting for you to claim as your own!!
All this and so much more is in this course.
Plus, if you aren’t completely satisfied with the information and resources available to you – let me know, and I’ll give you your money back. No questions asked – just send me an email : )
It’s time to get your questions answered and move forward in your life. If you really want to change your relationship, you’ve got to change how you think. You have nothing to lose, and this really could be just what you are looking for!!
Much Love,
Gloria
Imagine standing by the edge of a big city pool. One end is shallow, and you can easily stand and touch the ground. Nothing to worry about. You can do the doggie paddle, swim underwater, play around. And whenever you get tired you can just put your feet down, and feel safe. Plus, the stairs lead you gently down into and out of the water.
The other end is a little different. It’s much deeper, and you cannot touch the ground. It feels like this abyss of water, and when you feel tired or unsure the edge seems extremely far away. You watch others as they tread water to stay afloat, swim underwater easily, and even dive in – which is something you cannot do in the shallow end.
There’s a part of you that wants to jump in, to take the risk, to play with the others who aren’t bound by boundaries under their feet, but you are afraid. You are afraid of all of the what if’s . . . What if I’m not strong enough? What if I fail? What if I drown and no one sees me? Read More
What exactly is a vaccuum cleaner anyway? It is an appliance that someone created that does nothing but suck. Suck, suck, suck! My entire life revolves around sucking. I suck up the cookie crumbs from the little crumb crushers; I suck up the left over Doritoes from the guy who sits on the couch watching football all day; I suck up the dirt from the dog with muddy paws; and, I suck up the dust and dirt from just the everyday. And somedays, I feel like my entire life sucks . . .
I get so tired of sucking. I sit in the closet, completely unnoticed, until someone needs something sucked up. Then someone finally lets me out of the dark, plugs me in to the blessed outlet that gives me all the energy that I need, and I’m turned on one more time to do what? Suck! Read More
What is the fog? It is the place of the unknown. The place where you can see just a little bit, sometimes . . and then at other times, you can’t even see your hand in front of your face. There is little sun, and it feels cold and isolating. The air is thick and heavy. The fog is layers and layers of clouds that you can’t just sweep away.
You begin to wonder if you are even on the right track and doubt and fear can overwhelm you. Sound is muffled in the denseness, and even if you cry out you don’t know if anyone else can hear you. Everything looks unfamiliar even if you’ve been on that trail a hundred times before. You wonder – Should I wait until the fog lifts or move ahead in spite of the fog? How long will this last? Read More
I have said this so many times, and I still believe it to be true – My kids are my greatest teachers! And just they other day, I was amazed are how Remarkable two 13 year old girls were. (One being mine!)
My youngest daughter, Gloria Jean, has a friend, Sydney. Sydney just made a big move to live with her father in Pennsylvania, but was back here visiting her Mom for a little while. Gloria Jean was ecstatic to see her, and for about 2 days they were inseperable. The first night, Gloria Jean spent the night over at her friend’s; the next was our turn. Yeah!
As the girls walked in for our night, I was working on and looking at my computer, but I said, “Hey, Beautiful! How are you?” Read More
Friends . . . One of the most beloved shows on TV. Why? Because we can all relate. We all HAVE friends! And our friends come in all different shapes and sizes, ways of being, interests, levels of expression, careers, financial status, and on and on.
During the toughest times of our lives - including the times before, during, and after a divorce – we rely on our friends. We ask their opinions. We ask “what would you do” or “what did you do”? We value their perspective and advice. Yet, we have to recognize that not all friends are created equal.
Friends can give bad advice. Friends, no matter how well you may think they know and love you, don’t always have the answers that fit you and your situation. Friends want you to be happy (or at least not always want you to be a “Debbie Downer”), may not want to hurt your feelings, and can tell you want you want to hear vs what you may really need to hear! At the same time, friends do have ulterior motives – they want to keep you as their friend, they like who you are and really don’t want to see you change, and often get tired of hearing all about whatever it is you are going through even if it is only the occasional sigh.
So, how do you know if a friend is really a friend or a foe? Here are some guidelines to help you along the way to get everything you need to move through even the toughest times of your life . . .
- Do you feel better or worse after having spent time with your friend?
- Do you feel energized and empowered or drained and ready to take a nap?
- Did you do more talking or more listening?
- Do the words of encouragement or advice ring true for you or are you left with an uneasy feeling?
During my divorce, I had many friends fall away in the process. The divorce forced me into a whole new way of being. I had one friend tell me to forgive and forget for the sake of the kids – and somewhere in there was the hidden message of “So we can still hang out as 2 couples, have fun, and our kids can play together!” I had family members tell me what I should tell my kids because they “needed to know” when deep down inside of me, I knew that was not what I wanted to do. I had church members who would simply sigh and say, “Oh, I hate it when the devil wins . . . ” Yuck!
At the same time, I had friends that reminded me of my strengths and encouraged me to begin to build on those. I had my coach who said, “Gloria, this is hard, but you can do hard!” I had friends in writers whose books anchored me in truth and learning about this new person I was becoming. I had my best friend of all – the still, small voice within who loved me and stood by me no matter what.
Even now, my inner circle of friends are so very special to me. They still come in all different shapes and sizes, yet there are a few things they all have in common – I love spending time with them. They speak the truth to me in love. They value and respect who I am now and who I am becoming. They support me in every way to be the most remarkable person I can be! : )
Who are your friends?
None of us like pain. As a result, we take all kinds of over the counter pain relievers to alleviate the pain so that sometimes we don’t have to deal with the real issues that are causing our headeaches and sleepless nights, we can just take a Tylenol PM instead. But pain is a powerful teacher, and will often direct our steps in a much more powerful way of being if we would only pay attention.
I’m back, and I love it! I’d like to introduce the new and improved version of not just my website, but ME – my vision, my passion, and my heart . . . Much more to come.
However you may have come across this website, I am thrilled that YOU are here. I’ve been waiting for you . . and I have a super strong belief that YOU have been waiting for me!
WELCOME
If you’re curious, here’s a little scoop on how Remarkably You came about:
I was working with a marketing gal who was insisting that I come up with a name for my coaching business. She sent over several suggestions for me to consider via an e-mail attachment, but I will confess I never opened it.
As we talked on the phone a little later, she asked if I had picked a name yet. I told her that I hadn’ t, and that I hadn’ t even opened up the attachment yet. Exasperated, she sighed heavily and said, “ Gloria, you need to pick out something that is remarkably you.” My response was simply, “ I like that!” Read More
